Having solo hobbies like attending a weekend yoga class, playing a sport with friends, or exploring new coffee shops without your coffee-despising partner isn't a bad thing, but if your partner does these six activities without you, they're checked out of the relationship and the two of you might need to have an honest conversation about what's really going on. That being said we aren't glued at the hip and I am not his mother, so if he wants to hang out with his buddies or I want to go out with my friends for a girls night, neither of us has a problem with it. I wouldn't meet a girl at a bar alone, either. We asked if we could use the gift certificate right then for lunch and still get the $5 off coupon. Because it shows you trust him. Anyways, tonight he is going out with his buddy (whom I have met) and he let me know. He has female friends too, but unless its a large group, I am not ok with that and he understands that. I know that no matter who my husband meets, talks to, get hit on by, that he is devoted to M. and my kids and he feels the same way about M.. In the past he would ask me if he can go out with his friend to the bar because he knew I get very nervous. :) Turd. Of course it's important to have time away from your partner and a life of your own. Tinder, the popular dating app, is no longer just for hookups. My boyfriend and I met in Australia a few months ago after traveling Thailand together we both went our seperate ways, whilst remaining in a relationship. He is allowed to go where he wants. However if he was taking his single female intern out J. the two of them for drinksI would have a problem with thatif they go to lunch I really don't mind because it is usually because they are far away from the office on a site visit and go get something to eat. We LIKE being home together. He did not acquiesce, as I was sitting next to him. (and the funny thing is, in our relationship, I'm the one who's far more likely to go out by myself.). he possibly has a minor drinking problem Yes I go out with out my husband.. if Im talking to anyone and they try to pick M. up using thier cheesy lines I let them know right away Im married. I do not care at all. A know a few guys who don't do that. I know what it's like to love someone but know they aren't good for you. Honestly..what i'm going to start doing is when I know hes going out to drink, you should just play his game..don't text/ call him..let him come to youif he does. Are you his parole officer or his girlfriend? If it was only when he went out to have a bit of fun and didn't text through the evening, no problem. I guess I J. can't really imagine being in a relationship with someone that I didn't trust enough to be "allowed" to hang out with the opposite sex. and remind him that you both can talk about anything! Also we fully disclose everything before we even do something so we will ask the other. I go to a bar every once in a while, for a drink , by myself. Go with your gut on this one. I do think individuals should have "M. time" and couples should have dates. Right now, it seems he's being attentive to your needs. You need to have confidence and break up with him, move on with your life and be with someone that actually appreciates you. I don't understand why everyone flipped out about single people going out together. I guess I have.. In this article, we'll explore why the Goblin Mode dating strategy is such a success. if your partner does these six activities without you. its not good at what hes doing, but if its a long distance relationship theres nothing u can do, my guy just lives half hour away from me..pity things cant be just simple.. We are individuals sharing the same goals in relationship. Clubs and bars are places to find one night stand and occasional sex partners. Everyone on this site is so over dramatic! She means a simple text saying hey when I get off work Im gonna go have some drinks with friends. Feeling down or depressed is a common experience for many people at some point in their lives. First of all, guys NEED this time to well, do what guys do. Ahhhh, the Casino has a hold on him. Like your man, my girl would often text me while she was out, telling me she was thinking of me. I know it might be a challenge but just say hey i love you a lot but im feeling a little troubled lately. I've seen a lot of posts on here recently about whether its ok for a married or committed person to go to lunch/bar with single person of the opposite sex (or same gender depending on preference) and it had M. wondering if you guys/girls ever go to a bar or an establishment where other singles are and talk to new people? That's why I wouldn't go out to a bar without my SO. to M. if there is an air of "i am free, i do what i want, hey you're interesting, i'll talk to you!" Just calming say you will be "going out tonight/the weekend" for some fun with friends, he can enjoy himself with his. During a casual dinner with three other couples, the guys repeatedly implored my boyfriend to go with them to a strip club. My husband (these days) wants M. to be happy and encourages M. to get time out doing things I love. Here's the thing he knows you are uncomfortable with it, doesn't push it with you, and you still gave him the green light. Best way to contact ex-gf after 1+ months of No Contact? Sorry - J. reality in my world - you haven't made a LIFETIME commitment to your boyfriend - hence the fact he is bf and not dh. He might also be addicted to such acts, or have a compulsion to self-soothe' through intercourse. In recent years, there has been a growing need for safer opioid alternatives. Yuck. That's right. When he normally calls and then he doesn't is when he is out having fun. He sounds like a really sweet guy and even likes to text you while he is out. Or am I just being silly? Covering Phoenix, Mesa, Glendale, Scottsdale, Gilbert, the valley . Probably. That, combined with him expressing a desire to do MORE of this bar-going WITHOUT ME and spending less time with mePLUS he comes back from the bar, telling me about girls that are hot for himit's giving me some serious issues that are threatening our relationship. I went to see my boyfriend in the worst place in Vancouver downtown and he was standing outside of the bar and this was late at night by the way. Neither of which is good for a rel'ship..I mean, unless you're going to a bar to see a band..or maybe do karaoke or something. If he cares about you telling you what he is up to would just be second nature. my boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me at all..we are in a long distance relationship and the next day he gives me excuses like i was "too drunk" and passed out. I toned down my friendliness over the years to make him more comfortable. If your boyfriend is going out without you, it doesn't necessarily mean he's trying to end things. help!!! He didn't let me know anything. My friends and I have often discussed how we don't "get it" that supposedly most women like women. They have these piano bars here and my hubby and i went oncebut was not something we said, "HEY, lets go again !" about 60-70 % of all females at Los Angeles bars are already taken and there with girlfriends or they are actually there with their boyfriends lmao. Even in a long distance relationship, especially, in a long distance relationship, there has to be respect for trust to continue. If he was the type of person that wanted to hang out in bars and set that example for his child, I wouldn't have even bothered with dating him. Lets see how many times I can add to this. And now he was at a party and he messaged me around 9 pm telling he loved me. Seriously . ? No brainer. And just a little hint (whens playing games-such as baseball- you cant just change the rules to benefit yourself). Most chicks out here don't go out to bars as singles. Granted we shouldn't keep people on a leash and there are a lot of things going on with a LDR but how can you truts someone like that? It would be awkward coz we usually hang out with each other alongside other people. Also, there can be some exceptions and ultimately, you and your partner probably know your relationship best, so just because they've done one of these things before doesn't necessarily mean that they're done with you or have completely checked out. That's called a rule change. Again I'm so worried. When you do that, she will want to stay home with you because she'll be afraid of losing you. I don't seek them out for conversation or flirt with them. I mean I'd understand if he were a shady person, but he's not. Plus it's annoying for the fellas to have that one guy who's always checking in. I'm married. I guess I'm J. a prude, then, because I believe there are better places to hang out than bars and that if you are married or committed and have children, your time is better spent with them. I did indeed go and sit next to people I hadn't seen in months including some single men and proceeded to hug and be picked up by every guy I knew (oh how I love this bar, I'm 6 foot- so its rare to get the hug where people pick you up in the air and you get to feel like a girl lol) so anyway I do this every so often (usually once a month when my boyfriend has his Irish meeting, we'll take one car after dropping Emmy off with her dad, and I'll go here while he does his meeting) and usually my boyfriend will meet M. out or I will meet him out at some point in the night and we'll hang out with friends and have fun, but for a good portion I'm happily talking to whoever I want to, not gender biased or relationship status biased. After extensive research, he discovered he could create dramatic changes to his health simply focusing on 3 things that sabotage our body as we age. I have done a few "ladies' nites" with some of the other moms from my son's school. I go out with my girlfriends, usually a dinner and drinks at the local dining place. This is something we as humans can't help. BTW I can say that the majority of women I know are attracted to women as well (even if they don't act on it) so should they be banned from everyone=)Advertisementif(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_4',679,'0','0'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0');if(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_5',679,'0','1'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0_1'); .box-3-multi-679{border:none !important;display:block !important;float:none !important;line-height:0px;margin-bottom:5px !important;margin-left:auto !important;margin-right:auto !important;margin-top:5px !important;max-width:100% !important;min-height:50px;padding-bottom:20px !important;padding-top:20px !important;text-align:center !important;}. Ya know, and I think this is important, if someone I hung out with gave Troy a bad vibe I would not question his vibe, I would stop hanging out with that person. If I'm going to go out it will be with my SO. If after talking about it you still object to him going to strip clubs, that's okay! The problem is every time he's with his friends, he forgets about me completely and he doesn't want other to know that he is into a long distance relationship. Luckily for us both, neither of us are the 'bar/club going on a regular basis' kind of people. By the time my husband and I got married, we were so done with bars/clubs/discos (this was the 80's). Dont fall for this my life is in the hole either. Nearly everyone is guilty of giving their phone or other electronics too much attention from time to time, but if your partner is always so entrenched in what's going on elsewhere, it could be because they're no longer invested in what's going on between the two of you. I don't mind him enjoying his time alone he needs time to be a man, be with his guys, working on his cars,fishing etc. Now sometimes I will go out ot a bar with some of my friends. In any event, simply do what you feel comfortable with and if you particularly don't want to go topless in front of your friend's fella keep your bikini top on, wear a onepiece swimsuit, or suggest to your dh that the pair of you slope off to another part of the beach where you won't feel so inihibited. He is the most amazing person in the world and I just don't know what to do. This would allow him to distance himself from unpleasant feelings and dissociate from the discomfort of underlying mental problems. And I kinda think your J. as likely to get picked up having a coffee at starbucks. So no, we don't go to bars and not J. because we don't drink but we also don't go to strip places either and we definitely limit the amount of contact we have alone with the opposite sex. 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